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“I – You” Statements. No, that’s not a typo. I hear these a lot when I encourage partners to use “I statements” or to share how s/he is feeling. Here are examples of what to skip, and what to try: Skip:                                                                                                                        Try: I feel YOU are angry at me.                               I feel nervous. What are you […]

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About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple,...